Regrets
Or a good life well lived.

Ralph Profitt | April 15, 2018

As I grown more into life -- especially during my Senior years --spending a bit more additional time with contemporary others, I'm noticing an occasional undertone or inference of some underlining sense of repentant remorse among some -- sometimes even including younger persons as well, comparing their previous earlier selves and or present positioning in life to other times gone by.

A quiet seemingly sad regret for not doing more and being more with the many opportunities or privileges that might have come their way during their earlier sojourns in life -- situating them where they presently are now vs. what they might possibly have become or accomplished otherwise during prior times of youthful optimitism and physical capabilities.

Perhaps even more pronounced when comparing themselves to the successes of others in similar times with seemingly more or lesser talents, skills, and abilities than their own.

Rather than lament and mourn in potential bitterness, disappointment, and possible anger toward others, get rid of that emotional baggage

Apparently weighing their imaginative possibilities against not only some expectant social standards, but hints of some unknown cosmic spiritual influences as well for accountable stewardship and responsible management of their lives -- as worthy justifiable distinct potential achievements recognizable and appreciated by respected others -- as well as themselves.

A subdued partially repressed feeling of maudlin inward sorrow and disappointment rarely spoken of or perhaps even seldom noticed by others of missed chances and better breaks for the nostalgic reminisce visions of the likelihood of what might have been -- knowing nothing endures but change.

Relaxed earlier times enjoying idle pleasures of the moment in mistakingly taking the future for granted that it would always be there for one's benefit -- ultimately finding it's a lot like a dream without effort that evolves into a fantasy.

Such faded memories of wistful capabilities and possible attainments can leave one painfully grieving within themselves -- so much so, it can sadly become a bit depressive at times, leaving some to try and escape further personal feelings of failure or guilt with excessive drug or alcohol dependencies, while maybe also blaming others as well.

The difference between who you are, and what you might want to be, is what you choose to do about it -- for you become what you think.

It's always difficult in the midst of such angry recriminations, to be personally reminded we are what we choose to be.   A fault in not being more defined in one's own expectations of themselves -- whereupon one becomes a wondering generality -- rather than a focused meaningful specific.

The difference between who you are, and what you might want to be, is what you choose to do about it -- for you become what you think.

It has been suggested -- that one of life's most shuttering final moments, may be that as we are preparing to leave this World -- one heart beat away from eternity, we are given a brief glimmering glimpse through a higher consciences of a vivid presence of what we could have become, and what we ultimately became instead.
And no doubt for some, that is already a haunting realization.

Yet, one should try not to blame nor fault themselves too harshly nor too much for whatever has already occurred. There are far too many influences and circumstances in life that involve, interfere, and condition our character and behavior development -- frequently beyond our initial awareness or control.

Rather than lament and mourn in potential bitterness, disappointment, and possible anger toward others, get rid of that emotional baggage and use that displaced energy toward more creative possibilities remaining in your life to move on and inspire yourself and others as well in achieving their goals and ambitions.

In doing so, don't get discouraged when you sometimes fail. It happens to everyone. It's important to keep trying and learning from all such experiences. Nothing ventured -- nothing gained. You either use what you have, or lose what you could gain.   It's always far better to lose while trying, that to win at doing nothing. A winner never quits, and a loser never wins.

And even as persuasive as all such factors and circumstances of good, bad, or indifference that can happen in one's life may have been -- in the end, it's still pretty much our personal choices and our decisions that leave us with the resulting responsibilities for having allowed all such things to have affected and shaped our lives in the first place.

Perhaps then one of the greatest legacies one can leave in life, are living learning examples of what not to be. Don't get too soon old, and too late smart.   Experienced encounters suggesting to others -- "please try to avoid some of my same obvious mistakes" -- as you proceed on to your other destines.

For those who choose to lead a more purposeful life -- no apologies or self-incriminations are needed when one can truthfully and honestly say they have given all or most of what they had in them to be, to try somehow in some small way to have made this World hopefully just a little better place to be -- because they were here. That's a good life -- well lived.

That's a good life
Well lived.

A wise poet once wrote, "of all sad words of tongue and pen, none are more sad, that what might have been."   So whatever one feels they have yet to do -- please look to that horizon -- while you still can -- before a final Sunset. There are no do-overs in life, only a remaining future is left for fulfilling whatever noble actions you may yet intend to accomplish.
Make your future begin now.
It's your call.
I hope you choose wisely.

 
 


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